Thursday, August 1, 2013

PARENTING - THE BOSSY WAY!

Most people think strict parenting will produce better behaved children, but that is not always the case.

Parents who rule with a controlling, Iron -fist rather than not giving their children a chance to speak their mind are more likely to raise children who are disrespectful, depressed, hurting others and themselves.

Some psychologist calls it being an "Intrusive" parent. Others call it "Directiveness". Either way, the thing is that you are being bossy, interfering too much with your child's autonomy. You don't care what he/she thinks and take over the decision power.

The bossy parent's word is law. They give all the orders, but never gives reason for the same. Don't get me wrong! I am not saying they are cruel! They fear too much (unnecessarily) for their child's future. The idea of getting their child to listen and follow them often backfires.

Their children may learn how to follow orders and be "Good", but it's all driven from the exterior threat and pressure and not from their heart.

The study says that children with bossy parents often have difficulty making decisions. How can they? They have had little practice! 

Children learn from what they see, hear and from their parents, right? Well, if kids do what you want because they fear you, how is that different from bullying? If you shout, they will shout. If you use force, they will also do the same!

Children with bossy parents have tendencies towards anger and depression often, which is not a good thing!

Most strict parents have no intention of hurting their children, but some parents neither cares nor apologize especially if you are the one who is right! They do not let their children take their own decisions and let them learn their own way. They make things black and white with the whole "It's my way or highway" attitude.

Strictness does not work on creating better behaved, hardworking kids; in fact, it destroys everything good you do as a parent and handicaps your children in their efforts to make decisions!

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